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10 ideas for those who are afraid of ending any relationship


1- As far as possible that you realize that you have become alone in your life, that the state of fear that you feel has already taken place, that being officially alone, in contradiction, in any case, means that you have accomplished something that was your reality long ago. It is the first step to bring isolation, frustrating conflict and pain to someone close to you.

2- Feeling of the current emotional loneliness, you will not put an end to it and it will not end until you realize that you can bear the stage of loneliness and skip it in a practical way and realize that it is a necessary reality.
Of course we know that loneliness is much easier than it is worse, the difficulty and embarrassment of eating dinner on your own is not comparable to the atrociousness of shattering spirit repeatedly and remains misunderstood by the primary person in your life. He is a stubborn person who still does not understand it as the greatest scolding and bereavement of himself for the presence of an empty chair.

3 - You spend a lot of energy defending yourself against a legitimate and permissible hope, by tending unfairly to some proven general facts that are beyond doubt; that all lovers are corrupt and have flaws, and that all periods of the honeymoon must end.

In order to accommodate this comfortable exaggeration of the mind and the servant of the self at the same time, to change the word Habib and place instead the word movie or city that you wish to travel to. Your insistence that there is no perfect lover completely opposite to your application that there is no perfect movie or an entire flawless vacation. But this does not mean that you should not change the station on TV or reject the idea that there is a difference and a difference between the lively city of Birmingham and the quiet Lake Como. There are without disagreements and there are simply things that are preferable to others and things that are known to be worse than others, and this is true despite its validity, difficult to understand.

4- It is bad for the relationship to be apparent with one another while in secret, the relationship is almost severed and does not go right as in publicity. It is better to allow crying than to make you laugh while your inner heart is burning with pain.

5- What really hinders us is something we did not expect in the environment in which we lived; it is that we do not love or trust ourselves a lot, or feel that we do not deserve or feel ashamed of ourselves (related to its childhood stage) Our inability to leave is a sign of self-hate If we are strict on our part, it will be directly clear that we deserve and it is possible to claim something that is more sustainable or more comfortable for us.

6- Complete the following sentence: If all the obstacles and barriers had been taken from me, I would magically take care of them. (Pain in their news, difficulty finding a new home, feeling embarrassed about how to communicate the news to friends who share knowledge etc.)
What I really want will happen after that ... (Ignoring your answer means making more sacrifices in your life at the expense of a deceptive and thorny conversation with certain acquaintances who do not care about the matter. The point of this statement is that we don't waste a lot of time on justifications that will never help. It is time, that my deathbed will not give us medals for endurance, and the unlimited capacity to consume the depth of distress and misery we are experiencing.

7- The resulting suffering that causes loneliness is easy, lighter and more likely than the suffering to remain in a bad relationship, compared to the extent of the terrible effect of misunderstanding, hatred, bitterness, enmity and cold.
Being lonely is a condition that does not deserve to be given so much attention. The only thing that we should feel panic about is the possibility of life without being linked to a relationship with someone we can admire or love.

8- Tacitly assume that being alone in the future will literally be a very similar picture that you felt in how to stay alone before the existence of this relationship, and with this your experience with this relationship will always change how you translate the feeling of comfort in being a single / single.

9- From now on, the victory over the fear of loneliness will be the last and maximum guarantee to please love.

10- The correct relationship for you is not that which is free of problems, it is not the relationship in which from time to time there is no state of frustration or loss of nerves and behavior in an ugly manner, but it is the relationship in which you will not feel the way you feel now, the constant doubt whether you must Being here or not, it is normal to be unhappy at times, but you know to the core that going out is not the thing you want to hide (luckily for you) you will not want and will never need to read an article like this ever.