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Why are some people hated?

This question is one of the biggest intellectual dilemmas that we face almost daily.

 Why are they deceiving, malicious

  Limeon is coward and can't be trusted.

These questions give us right and left to find answers to them, and during our search for answers we take a short cut and go towards a standard criterion which is "because they are simply bad people" This conclusion may be harsh but we feel it is real and appropriate in this case.

But when we feel mental clarity, we push ourselves to go through an extraordinary intellectual experiment that challenges the certainty that we have reached and makes it more difficult and complicated, which is "What if we look at them with the loving eye"?

Experience requires endurance, and it is preferable to choose the quietest and most isolated times of our day, because this pivotal experience will later be considered one of our most important ethical achievements.

It is evident that we will stand in line with our opinions and believe in the validity of our view of them, but sometimes we are born with the ability to look at the abusers through a angle that is closer to what we are used to, to discover that their reality is more complicated than we thought, and that, contrary to the motives of our anger towards them, they deserve sympathy and Observance, although they caused us pain and frustration, and their silver behavior contradicts what we expect from them, and despite our pure desire to invite them to the malicious fools, we go leaving behind, looking at the people who are offended with the eyes of love

It includes several things, including: -

1- Imagination

Moral thinking states that we can get to know people really closely by the way they behave under difficult circumstances.

While thinking about love pushes us in another direction, urges us to use imagination, so that we can imagine what they should have done this disgraceful behavior? And at the same time we mix our question with a little sympathy and understanding so that we can answer it fairly, maybe they were terrified, or under great pressure, or they were Worried and desperate They might have been trying to say and do something else, but that was all they could show.

Those who think with love, see that behind the anger and crying lies sadness, grief and regret not occupied, not only that, but also they see that the robe of pride and vanity is made of threads of imperfection and weakness, and they believe that the shocks and early disappointments experienced by the Christians formed The cornerstone of their current behavioral excesses, those who think of love will always remember that the abuser was once an innocent child.

Those who look with love cling to the belief that purity and kindness are always present behind the curtain in the personalities of the offspring with the possibility of the growth of these characters and their insight into the reality of their behavior, which will lead them later to regret what I have committed, always remember that if thinking deeply about the childhood of a person and His past will result in a less disastrous impression of his insolence and the ugliness of his actions.

3- Depth, not surface

Moral thinking focuses on the act itself, while thinking with love focuses on the story behind the disgraceful act, the angry husband who abandons his family, because of this act precisely ancient roots in his childhood, he lived with parents unbalanced in their relationship, he lost stability and lost his childhood innocence in the pursuit of their problems.

We may read headlines in the newspapers

Like the "CEO scandal of the company ...." It is not a story of greed, greed and bribery, but rather a story of despair, loss and psychological fatigue.

4- The child inside

Thinking with love means that we remember the child that lies within them, that the abuser may be an adult, but his behavior will always be related to his early childhood years, often we make sure that we do not appear in the appearance of the shepherds and treat them as if they were minors, but sometimes we must ignore the fact that they are adults so that they do not conflict with our ability On the mercy and containment of that angry, confused baby, the only one in them.

We do not deal badly when we are around naughty children, we do not bow down to them and tell them empty words, but rather look for less terrible ways to make them realize what they did wrong, and we usually do not have a bad intention towards these small beings, and we often search for explanations Vindicate their intention, maybe they are exhausted, or they are jealous of the new child, or they feel unwell, and many other explanations are always present with us.

This is the opposite of what we do when an offensive act is issued by an adult. We assume that he deliberately did this, but if we look deeper at the child in them, our first interpretation will be completely different, given that every adult will still be a part of it that is not yet immature. Some of the Muslim women we deal with Adults also have a share.

5- The possibility of a tragedy

Moral thinking believes that people simply get what they deserve, while thinking with love sees that there is a tragedy, no matter how good a person will be, that it will fail one day and fall, we do not live in an ideal world, the tragedy teaches that the most traumatic events can affect innocent people And the malicious alike, the catastrophe is distributed specifically to those who think that the next will be bad as a result of what they did, thinkers believe in love with an exceptional, frightening and rare possibility that is acceptable and that the catastrophe is not necessarily confined to only the tyrants

6- Patience

Moral thinkers reach their beliefs quickly, while those who think of love take their time, and they remain in front of a clearly disturbing behavior, a sudden and sudden outburst as if it was a cosmic explosion, a barbaric accusation, and a very mean opinion. With the beautiful memories of a person who is currently abusive and angry but essentially kind, they know themselves well so that they understand that giving up their view of the abusers is a normal and normal thing and indicates skipping psychological exhaustion, they do not increase the severity of a stubborn situation through self-equity and is a symptom indicating Not knowing the person about the situation Currently it, and a reminder, the person who hits his hand on the table in anger, or too extreme opinion is often Maicon says anxiety, panic-stricken, hungry, or he just excited, these cases invite us to sympathy with them instead of disgust

7- Retrieve features

Thinkers lovingly see that everyone has strengths as they have weaknesses, when they face their weaknesses they do not reach the conclusion that this is only all that is in them, they know that every characteristic on the negative side is matched by another characteristic on the positive side, they look more closely for the strengths that You may be a twin of a crazy trait, we can easily see that someone is pedantic and stubborn, and we forget in times of disagreement their sincerity and devotion to us, we may know a lot about the anarchy of the lives of some people and forget to add to our knowledge the degree of their enthusiasm and their unfamiliar rush that may cause differences.

A completely weak person does not exist without any strengths, just as there is no strong person and without any weaknesses. The solace here is that a person’s faults cannot be isolated from the rest of his entire personality. Love is built slowly and repeatedly by the fact that there is no empty soul Of defects and weaknesses forever.

8- We are also wrong

The greatest incentive to think about love is awareness of the fact that we, too, are not perfect and we may sometimes be illogical. The enemy of generosity is the belief that we can never make mistakes. Thinking with love begins when we acknowledge that we both fill us with faults, and our complete belief in our idealism may turn us into Ruling judges throw unfairly to others, and who are we to do it? When we look at the world with a loving eye, we will come to a conclusion admitting that there is no bad person.

Simply put, there is always pain, suffering and oppression that have formed very bad and unfortunate deeds, and this conclusion is not an open invitation to always be kind, but rather an invitation to search for the truth and dive into the depth of the human soul that is ultimately the same, so that we can understand the reasons behind those Infamous verbs

2- He is in pain, not a bad person

Those who think of love who refuse to believe in the existence of evil, simply see that the abusive behavior resulted from pain, which screams, never felt that his opinion is important until he is heard, who is defective and ridiculed constantly has been insulted a lot before, until his soul extinguished and grabbed hope From them, these are certainly not excuses in their favor in order to evade responsibility, but are merely information stating that bad behavior is his response to a wound and is never ever an abstract act.

The main goal of thinking with love is to stick to those characters in the most challenging situations, and to distinguish between their frank actions with their malice, and the pathetic motives that lie behind them