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One of the reasons that contribute to making our life more difficult.

It is that most of us have no experience in the art of mature self-assertion, which means being able to place our interests in the face of conflict in an effective, calm, and credible manner.

We are confronted daily with challenges that may pose a threat to our positions that require us to take a stand against them, for example;

A partner who rejects our emotional feelings, a colleague who underestimates the value of our suggestions, and a parent who crushes our ambitions, all of which will prompt us to act in two very unfortunate ways.

The genius Aristotle was the first western explorer of human emotions, seeing that maturity often falls at the point of intersection between two ends.

Nicomachean ethics determine the ideal forms of behavior as well as two distinctly weak attributes

Shortcomings

Cheese, insolence, and lost

Virtues:

Courage, modesty, generosity

Excess from vice or sin:

Daredness, shyness, vulgarity

Resentment, persistence, anger

In responding to danger we often follow one of the ways, we may not be confused with a lip, who we are until we protest - why would someone want to listen to us, how dare we object, and nothing will stop us from insulting and detesting ourselves, then we conceal toxins within us until we find a way out Or, let it break us into a prolonged sermon of accusations and accusations, followed by a burning revenge that at once burns the credibility of everything we were trying to transfer and ensures that we will be put into the package of tyrants.

At the root of our failure lies a familiar psychological problem, which is the monster of self-hate, because we have not learned to love and respect ourselves, even though it may seem (instinctive and repugnant at the same time), and yet we do not move a finger, we believe that we have no right to take our situation seriously, not That is just but we also have despair and rejection of the possibility of any conscious understanding among humans. We have no experience in conducting a dialogue, so we need to practice until we turn from a person who apologizes for being a nuisance as they think only because he demanded his right, to someone who expresses sobriety and balance Some point for his interlocutor to submit to him and thank him for speaking clearly and give him the promise to look at things differently in pain Accept, but we are in a form of self-doubt, we rush to exercise and launch an attack destined to failure, targeting our opponent's safety and proving in it our prior knowledge that this attack cannot succeed, which will push our inner world to be filled with images of tyrants who do not listen, and defraud their followers without any Right.

 I have to say, all of those phrases are very stressful and they continue to be self-assertive.

Within a normal day, we will face many moments when we must speak properly and appropriately about a right, politely but firmly, with respect and with determination, of course it will benefit if we have had prior training in childhood and is the type in which someone asks Parents gently to their three-year-old child "Darling, how do you feel about that?" And he listens to his answer, rather than telling him to stop being ridiculous or attack him for being unresponsive to others, and that irrational attack caused his father to have had a difficult day at work .

There is a challenge that will face you on your way to mastering the art of self-assertion, which is (lack of prestige) must be considered one of the greatest psychological obstacles, so learning how to assert yourself consistently and with dignity - is an achievement that deserves to be celebrated, such as celebrating climbing a mountain or reaping wealth despite being more useful

We must assure ourselves that it is not because it will always work, but a little lowering of expectations will be beneficial in this case, but when we are not understood at all, we no longer feel a desperate need to understand them, we must assure ourselves regardless of the results because the confirmation will give A great sense of our ability and strength and therefore we will be less restricted

And in order to move forward, we must devise solutions to the obstacles that may impede our path, including the place where we are now punished with the quality of the people around us who tell us conveniently and very skillfully, that it is all because of us, or that they expect us to carry our concerns and carry out their tantrums with a smile Shining, it is unusual for us to take into account that life will not last forever, that we have the right to exist, and that there is a small opportunity for us to be understood, and therefore for the first time instead of silence or shouting let us wait until we feel comfortable and satisfied with ourselves And we take an unfamiliar position for us, which is the expression of two things And our feelings of moderation and firmness