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It is always expected that a person with his natural tendency will be in a continuous state in the search for his personal happiness, especially in two important areas for self-satisfaction, but they are:

Relationships of all kinds and professional fields.

For this reason, this seems a little strange and at the same time exciting for nerves, where we find ourselves mostly deliberately spoiling any opportunity we seek to achieve our aspirations, for example when going to a date with the people we tend to can become better candidates to be our partners in The future, so that we suddenly undertake unaccountable behaviors that ultimately spoil the appointment with our arrogant behavior, or when we are in an intimate relationship with someone we love, we suddenly make accusations that do not have a convincing reason leading to offensive and aggressive behavior which makes the matter worse.

As if we are in these behaviors, we bring misery and sadness for ourselves.

 During the state of anger received, the beloved is at the top of fatigue and exhaustion from these behaviors, which compels him to leave despite the fact that love and compassion exist, but the presence of a high degree of drama with disobedience and suspicions will not be accepted, which leads to the inevitable end of the relationship.

It is similar situations that it is possible for these behaviors to destroy opportunities, for example, obtaining a promising task awaiting work after making a wonderful offer and the safety of the board of directors, so that the person then behaves in a sharp and inappropriate manner with the CEO of the administration, for example, or insults a customer during Business dinner in a state of intoxication.

For such behavior, the blame cannot be placed and linked to bad luck, so this behavior falls under an important global term, which is self-destruction.

We are aware enough that everyone is afraid of the brunt of failure, but sometimes it appears prominently that success can bring with it a lot of tension.

In the end, this thing could culminate in our desire to spoil the opportunities by trying to revive his peace of mind!

What is the probability of interpreting suspicion of success? In some specific cases, the unconscious desire (subconscious) is to protect those who love us especially those who have cared for us from a young age from a sense of our direction towards envy, inertia and lack of self-sufficiency, which can serve as a warning and an alert to our gains and achievements, for example, your new drinking or getting promoted As head of the employees becomes a silent frustration for those around us, which drives them to make a comparison between our accomplishments and their achievements and the fear that they are not worthy enough to work in the company.

It seems strange to accept that the people who loved us from a young age have feelings for envy, our direction especially if they are very loyal to us.

Despite this, caregivers (parents in particular) seem to carry with them inherent layers of personal remorse that they feel a sense of fear of neglect and that they are not important to others, even their children during the stages of life they always remind them not to be arrogant and not to forget the assets so that he is satisfied with himself And does not feel neglected.

By this we end with the conclusion that the success we seek is threatened to hurt the feelings of those we love

 

The solution is that we soon discover this impenetrable stalemate (self-destruction).

It is that we take a deep, generous, and proactive grip on the true causes that have prompted carers to feel anxious and anxious about our accomplishments.

We must be conscious and fundamentally aware that caregivers are not as afraid of our accomplishments as they are terrified of our abandonment of them, and thus this reminds them of their powerlessness.

For this reason, the important thing is not that we try to manage opportunities but rather by trying to reassure our partners that we are sincere and interested in their value, their presence in our lives, and their importance mainly.

Also, there is a second common type of self-destruction that is for the destroyer to find for himself that the price of hope is expensive.

It is possible in the youth stage that we are in a state of facing many brutal brutal frustrations so that we are in a state of weakness to resist and address them, especially family problems for example, that the person wants the parents to stay together without separation or for the father to return permanently to the homeland after The absence of expatriate years in another country.

In emotional relationships, we may be in a strong emotional relationship, and after several weeks of happiness, the beloved suddenly changes his attitude, which makes us in a state of derision by peers.

It seems that our personality carries with it a deep connection of falsehood between hope and danger, with our preference that we live with our disappointments is better than enjoying a flash of hope in our lives.

The solution is to always remind ourselves that despite fears we can live in spite of losing hope, anymore we are not those who dare the bitterness of disappointments and are responsible for their hesitation and cowardice.

In addition, the main thing that distinguished the childhood stage from the stage of puberty is that adults have access to many sources that give hope for themselves about the child, an adult who can survive despite the presence of disappointments from time to time, because we are old and aware and are no longer living In a region linked to his family, neighbors and his teacher.

We are able to make the whole world as a grove to sow and reap in it all kinds of hope so that we can somewhat surpass the inevitable fate and survival despite the odds and be able to crush the disappointments that confront us.

Finally, the quality of humility and modesty can play a role in destroying our successes, to some extent our feeling that we do not deserve to receive rewards and gifts.

We believe that we do not deserve to have a new job or a boyfriend, for example.

This behavior, laziness, cowardice, stupidity and lack of adequate weaving lead us to conclude that there is a mistake in the matter. For this reason, we reject gifts and gifts from the universe and we really do deserve them, but we believe that others deserve them more.

This thinking is considered very lethal and harmful to its owner who misunderstands that the methods of success and pain are dedicated and distributed!

The universe does not distribute both gifts and pains with a precise divine knowledge according to the good and bad tendency that is within us. It is possible that most of what we win and win we do not deserve and vice versa for suffering.

For example, cancer of all kinds is not considered suffering, so that we do not consider a person suffering from evil or sin.

When we feel persecuted and not deserving of grace and preference, we need here to stop it with ourselves, which is to remind ourselves that we also do not deserve to distort our reputation for ourselves whether we fall into sin or an emotional abandonment or disease, it will be the case of our external beauty, the height of the high self and love and love Partners also feel unworthy of all these things.

We must not worry about our previous lives and not think about the future either, it is a matter of acceptance, that you accept fate from the beginning as a blessing from God in addition to the presence of dark concerns inherent in us, and complete indiscriminate with no moral dimension as well.

It is useful for us to retain a concept of self-destruction. We should start doubting us if we see doing abnormal and abnormal acts, especially in front of people who have affection and always strive to dazzle them.

Moreover, when faced with certain types of maliciousness and distrust by others, we must realize that these things are not what we imagined them to be, it is possible that in our hands is not a malevolent opponent who carries the two boys but with a little patience we see a wounded, self-destructive person who deserves To be treated lightly and kindly so that he does not hurt himself in the end.

Finally, conditions must be set that help others know how nerve-wracking we want to be when we are really close to what we really want