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There are important questions that we must ask ourselves to measure the extent of our emotional health: -

Do you generally feel that you have the right to exist? Do you feel in balance that your self is sufficient regardless of your circumstances or accomplishments?

Do you generally feel like a bad person? A person makes his way in life by deceiving others who would never hesitate to abandon him if they knew

A small part of his truth, as a false person and a step away from scandal and humiliation

It is strange and exceptional that many of us automatically answered yes to the second question, how many people are alive but without feeling that they deserve

 To walk on this earth, suicide statistics say it is scary for our societies, but severe self-hate statistics

 It says something worse and it is estimated that one out of four people suffers from severe self-hate, if we see a stranger treated in the same way that he treats many

They will never hesitate to describe it as brutality and cruelty

 One of the strange details about self-loathing is that one usually does not notice them in oneself and their awareness and observation requires a degree of objectivity and contemplation of the value and worth of a person that

Which it lacks, self-loathing may be very clear but we do not pay attention to it and it has always been neglected since childhood

One does not know that he is a self-hater because he believes he deserves that treatment, because he sees himself as a bad person

The effects of self-hate are evident in a number of situations, such as:

When someone says flattery, you will immediately doubt their awareness and mental abilities. When someone who loves you asks you to relate to you, you will start asking why he is weak.

To this degree! When you are stuck in an emotionally draining relationship, whether at work or in private life, you will stay if necessary for decades because you simply believe that

That type of relationship is just what you deserve, and if you are promoted at work or liked and worked with you, you will immediately feel that you are not competent and ineligible and that you are lying to them,

There is always a voice in your head that accompanies you in all your challenges and tells you that you will not be able to overcome these challenges and that you are a fool of a fool and everyone hates you

And if it seems to you that something is going well, you will sabotage and destroy that matter with brilliance, you know how to spoil yourself with job opportunities and how to keep people away

Those who want to be kind to you, and you think that others make fun of you and that they abuse you, and you feel hostility and aggression when dealing with your colleagues or

Your loved ones in stores or restaurants, and most of the time you are in a panic that the world may discover at any moment or that it has already been discovered

What you know well about yourself is that you are a disgusting fool

Salvation and liberation begins with a look of sounding and contemplation of ourselves. No one is born while he loves himself. There is a history of self-hate but you are unable to think about it.

Those gentle and encouraging responses to us, which the first people who brought us up and care for us said have an impact on us and may encourage us to continue and move forward.

Ahead, and thus our feelings about ourselves are built from the responses and interactions of the first people around us in our childhood years, we may not know anything about these

The people in our conscious conscious mind, but there is no need for that, we can infer everything by asking a simple question to ourselves, do I like who I am?

You may not have the real picture of yourself, but you can feel your fingerprint

 No one can escape the feeling that it was a nuisance or a danger or that it was not appropriate and caused disappointment for the people who raised it, it must result in a negative impact and is considered

The existence of this effect is an indisputable postulate. If you live in such an environment, you deserve a prize because you have not distanced yourself away from everyone until now. We cannot escape from the law.

The main: - which states that we are the only beings who derive their ability to continue and move forward based on the acceptance and love that have been granted to them from those who took care of them in childhood

It is scary to admit that we have been treated poorly and unfairly, the anger we feel towards those people who are full of faults who have taken care of us previously

We may turn it towards ourselves, and ultimately choose to hate our selves to accept the horrific truth, which is that whoever we needed to love and feel safe, was not kind to us.

 , We can end up not having any susceptibility to anger because that would require a self-esteem, so most of us are drugged the idea that it was violated or that it is still working

 On drugging, we run away from that idea of ​​binge-taking drugs, romantic relationships, pornography, fame, eating sugars a lot, and that's a way

 Self-hate refers to every direction other than its primary source: early childhood years

 

What is the solution ? How does one get oneself out of the self-hate pit? To start with, we must become realistic with ourselves and adhere to the idea that we hate ourselves for it

In the past we were not accepted and loved by those who looked after us, this may seem like an insult, but to make this concept related to a person’s experience, this will be considered

 One of the great tasks of his life is that he will gradually liberate him from the nightmare of self-hate

We must start by observing our injustice to ourselves by interpreting the course of events, how many decades have passed and we are practicing transforming ourselves always for the evil person in

Cutting events and situations and justifying the behavior of others more than they deserve, and in putting ourselves always in a position of shame and error

We may be smart, but on the side of self-hate we may not think well, so we need help, it may require verification of our reality.

In reality of another person, and therefore we re-evaluate the assumptions that we have assumed about everything we touched upon, we need to re-direct the pain from the hatred of ourselves and the fear of facing the world to

Its original home is the sadness of calamities

Perhaps in the end we will reach insight and conclusion that we are not bad, we are simply subjected to unfortunate treatment in the early years of our childhood, and therefore we must learn

An important and wonderful art that produces exceptional results, which is to always be in the class of ourselves