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Children anger revolutions

Why do children get angry?

The age from 18 months to 3 years carries a special pleasure, but it can also be a challenge because the child is going through a lot in terms of its development. As a mother, you should know that your child learns a lot about the world around him now, and learns how to organize himself in relation to this big world. The following are some of the main developmental stations that he passes during this period:

Children become more aware that they are individuals separate from their parents.

Children are eager to assert themselves, tell others what they like and dislike, and act as independently as possible.

 The child's control of himself is limited, or he barely begins to learn important skills for control, such as: waiting, sharing, and waiting for the role.

Precisely for this reason, many specialists and mothers describe this period as a "difficult two years" when the child is in his second year, as the child focuses on self-affirmation through his favorite word: "No!". You have to remember that this is all good, and that you allow your child to develop his character, with limits, of course! Remember that your child may need more help in dealing with his own feelings; it may also depend heavily on the use of actions to communicate strong feelings, due in The fact of the matter is that he has not yet been able to express his emotions verbally because of his limited linguistic abilities

Aggression is not a strange thing at this stage, as it reaches its climax when the child reaches his second year, and the child finds himself experiencing strong feelings, but he is unable to use language to express himself. Also, children do not have enough self-control to restrain themselves from acting according to what their feelings dictate to them, and this is largely due to the development of the brain in that period.

How should I behave?

When dealing with "collapses" and aggressiveness, think about your child's environment at the moment: what made him behave this way? Does he feel over excited, tired, or hungry? Is it in a new place full of new data? And so on. In this way, you can know what it is triggering and how you can reduce it. For this reason, I would like to offer you some "preventive advice"; in addition to some things that you must do after the crash has occurred, follow these tips:

Notify your child in advance of any change that will happen soon

This helps him to anticipate what will come.

Tell him 5 minutes before what you would do, like: "After five minutes, we'll wear our shoes and go out. Which shoes would you like to wear?"

Offering options is excellent at this point, as it helps the child feel some ability to control what is around him.

Name and refer to feelings

It is a good idea to start from an early age, so try to confirm your child's feelings when he feels frustrated, for example, and say a phrase like: "I know it is difficult to wear shoes to go out while you are very enjoying playing here, but we have to go see your grandmother." More: Why do children lie?

Try to speak enthusiastically

Children love the enthusiastic tone a lot, and can distract them from what they were busy with.

Being aware of what is bothering your child is also very important to him.

Always keep calm when there is aggressive behavior

If you feel the need to leave for a few minutes (bearing in mind that your child is not in a position to hurt themselves), do so, and return after you have calmed down.

This method is great for getting you back in control, and to help your child calm down faster.

If your child finds you frustrated, his feelings of frustration will increase as well.

Treat the child in a stable and firm manner

Do not shout at your child's face, and do not say phrases that insult or underestimate him

Use a calm, firm tone of voice to tell him that his behavior is not acceptable: "Don't strike. The hit is harmful."

You can also hold his hands and place them on either side of his body. (This way you use body language; therefore your child hears what you are saying and sees what must be done as well. Children need to see “tangible” things as verbally forbidding them is not enough. He must also see that hitting is not acceptable.)

There is another tip for stability. If you said to your child: “No, you cannot play with this (scissors, sharp object, or food for example)”, then your word must be firm and final.

If your child turns away from something and says that it is not allowed, act to prevent it.

But if you give up the matter and surrender to the behavior of the child, he will learn that if he fights with you or starts screaming, he will get what he wants.

This will make it difficult for you the next time you try to put an end to unacceptable behavior.

Offer alternatives to your child

If he plays with his food, tell him that this is unacceptable, and that you will bring him some paste to play with soon.

Use distraction

Anger revolts

Unless the child is hurting himself or someone else, you can simply ignore the child in the event of anger revolutions, especially if there is no reason for his anger.

This is not a rare occurrence. So, let him empty his feelings. We all need to empty from time to time.

When a child gets a little older, you can teach him how to deal with his anger.

You should also read signs that may indicate the possibility of anger eruptions in your child.

If he has had bad experiences during the day or if he needs to embrace you while he is angry, embrace him calmly, take him to a quiet and comfortable corner, and give him a simple break around him, and speak to him in a calm and gentle voice.

The child may not need more, and this helps him or her to learn to calm himself